Most parenting techniques focus on "behavior modification"—getting a child to act a certain way through rewards or punishments. Tripp suggests this is superficial. If you change the behavior without reaching the heart, you are simply training a child in hypocrisy.
Parenting is not about being a boss or a dictator; it is a position of delegated authority. Shepherding a Child's Heart by Tedd Trip
Moving toward a mentoring relationship as the teen learns to shepherd their own heart before God. 6. The Gospel Focus Shepherding a Child's Heart by Tedd Trip